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hey yall! i know its been like a bit (6 months) but does anyone of u guys who are lgbtq+ (particularly lesbians or gay people) have any tips for a teenage lesbian coming out to her homophobic dad who watches shit like fox news and other anti-lgbtq+ news sources and also audibly said the f slur when two dudes on tv kissed and also said "ew" and just in general makes fun of lgbtq+ people?
im not in much danger as i have a supportive mother who doesnt really care much that im a lesbian, and a pretty supportive family in general (i have a lesbian cousin and my family treats her well) but im still scared. im not coming out in person but rather on phone just in case my dad gets physical and or violent (i am also an hour away with my grandma aunt brother and a dog although she probably wouldnt do shit lol ) i have come out to my grandma, mom, sister, and im like 99% sure one of my aunties know as well (all were supportive) but anyways enough rambling heres the tldr;
do any lgbtq+ people (specifically lesbians and gay people) have any tips for coming out to a homophobic dad? im not in much danger since my mom supports me, and i am doing this on phone rather than in person.
thanks to anyone who replies :) <3
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thank you so much, i appreciate you for helping :) made a plan. ill have my cousins come over for comfort so it'll be easier to talk to him when im calling. my mom said that he just says that kind of shit cause hes just trying to be funny but i dont really believe it. but again, thank you <3
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@acoustic_heartbeat | it seems as if your father isn’t ready to accept you, as he often expresses open hatred toward the community — although it’s great that you’re doing it over phone instead of in person and that you have a supportive family. i would personally not come out to him, since it’s risking a relationship with a parent. yet if you think he is ready and you’d like to, i’d tell him in a direct manner, and hold your ground. if you know that he may start an argument or say sh!t then i hope that you’ll be prepared with what to say — it’s important to stay as calm as possible and firm. here’s an article with a few common arguments from homophobic parents and responses as well : https://www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-come-out-to-homophobic-parents/ please only take this with a grain of salt though, as i have never came out to my homophobic parent. this isn’t going to be easy, and i know it must be terrifying — always remember that you are still loved by others even if he doesn’t accept you. good luck !! < 3
