_dustyhands_

Hey so to the people I usually message and what not
          	I'm not ignoring you. I don't think you're annoying. I'm not being passive aggressive and telling you that you need to change or that I don't want to talk to you anymore or that I think you're annoying / that you're bugging me. It's none of those. It's actually rather personal. 
          	I've just been taking a break because I want in a good place mentally / emotionally. And I'm still not, but I was feeling a little better today than usual so I figured I'd tell you why I kind of dropped off the face of the earth. I promise, I'll be back. I just don't know when. It will be soon, I promise. I just don't know if 'soon' will be in a week or in a month. I have a lot going on right now, including tests and personal drama. I'm really freaked out irl rn, and it's hard to focus. So I'll see you all when I see you. You're all real great people. Ily, see ya when I can.  
          	
          	Sincerely, 
          	Jem

_dustyhands_

Hey so to the people I usually message and what not
          I'm not ignoring you. I don't think you're annoying. I'm not being passive aggressive and telling you that you need to change or that I don't want to talk to you anymore or that I think you're annoying / that you're bugging me. It's none of those. It's actually rather personal. 
          I've just been taking a break because I want in a good place mentally / emotionally. And I'm still not, but I was feeling a little better today than usual so I figured I'd tell you why I kind of dropped off the face of the earth. I promise, I'll be back. I just don't know when. It will be soon, I promise. I just don't know if 'soon' will be in a week or in a month. I have a lot going on right now, including tests and personal drama. I'm really freaked out irl rn, and it's hard to focus. So I'll see you all when I see you. You're all real great people. Ily, see ya when I can.  
          
          Sincerely, 
          Jem

_dustyhands_

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That feeling of sheer panic when you forget that your bedroom door is so fucked that it won't open because the handles aren't connected to the piece that keeps it closed so it's stuck closed if it closes
          And then you close it
          
          So yeah I'm physically stuck in my room with no way of getting out because my parents are old and pretty much deaf and are watching a movie so they won't hear me even if I tried to get their attention
          
          Anyway how's your day

_dustyhands_

okay psa
          If you accidentally misgender someone
          Apologize once, I repeat ONCE
          as in ONE TIME
          correct yourself
          and move on.
          Don't make a big deal about it.
          Don't make it awkward.
          You're making the other person uncomfy in the process if you say sorry over and over and over and over again.
          Let it go down like this:
          
          "So, I was talking to Jamie the other day and she said-"
          "Actually, Jamie's pronouns are they/them."
          "Oh, okay, thanks for correcting me! Anyway, guess what they said,"
          
          or
          
          "So she said-"
          "Actually, my pronouns are he/him," 
          "Oh, sorry. So he said,"
          
          It's deadass that easy don't like trip over yourself and apologize profusely, it's uncomfy
          and if someone comes out to you and tells you their pronouns
          DONT SAY SORRY
          YOU DIDNT KNOW, HOW WERE YOU SUPPOSED TO GENDER THEM CORRECTLY THE ENTIRE TIME YOU KNEW THEM IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW-
          sorry, just a big pet peeve of mine. 
          Either accept it and move on or apologize ONCE, and then move on just as quickly.
          It's that easy. 
          
          Thanks and have a great rest of your day/night,
          Jem

GrimLee123

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@_dustyhands_ shit i do this
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_dustyhands_

i fell down the stairs yesterday while i was carrying my laundry to the washroom and i bruised my back really bad and the chairs at the desks at my school are at the perfect height to stab me in the bruises and so now i can't lean back or it hurts so yeah that's a thing