If you are working on yourself or on anything important, then you have to be patient with yourself first. Everything takes time. Your focus should be on the process more than anything else. What most people do is keep questioning everything: "When will it end?", "Is this going well?", "Am I doing the right thing?", "What if I mess up like every time?", or "What if I get judged?" These thoughts often lead to overthinking, and you already know how that turns out.
The moment you start overthinking, it can slowly lead to self-hatred. It's the truth. People often end up blaming themselves for every little thing just because they aren't getting the results they expected. No matter how much a person says they don't care, they usually do. And when they are alone, they blame themselves for everything. You need to understand that you don't have to be perfect. Progress matters more than perfection.
I understand that another reason people feel this way is the constant nagging from the people around them. Their constant jabs and taunts can affect you deeply. Sometimes, it's the silent judgments that hurt the most. It takes a lot of strength to overcome all of this, but remember, it isn't impossible. You can do it, and you will. I trust you.
Learn to appreciate yourself. It's okay to feel too much at times, but that doesn't mean you should stay in that state forever. Take care of yourself. You matter, and so do your efforts.
