Watched this podcast and found something mindblowing that I think will help. So I have this problem and I am sure many of you do, that I am soo harsh on myself, like even for the minute things. I once cried because my manager yelled at someone else and I flinched and that I managed to convince myself that I am weak for doing that.
Anyway so in this podcast, Dr. Sid Warrier who is a neurosurgeon said that the reason it happens is because of an indentity crisis. The prefrontal cortex of our brain sees us as a certain type of person and our actions did not align with that.
In my case, I see myself and I want myself to be a strong women but strong women don't flinch when someone else gets yelled at. So the Sana I think I am did not align with my actions and the solution to that is to find words to the emotions.
Whenever you get overwhelmed with anything talk to yourself, journal or just analyze what happened so that you can slowly convince your mind that it's okay and bring back the alignment.
I've seen this suggestion for the first time but I've subconsiously been doing it everytime I get overwhelmed. Sometimes I get overwhelmed to even go to the grocery store lol. I have to tell myself "Sanu, sweetheart calm down. One step at a time, now get out of the bed, take the bag and walk to the door"
I hope none of you relate to this but if you do just know that you are not alone and you can overcome this. Wish someone told me this but instead one of my best friends just rolled her eyes when I told her my problem...as if she only sees it as laziness. My other friend was supportive though and so was my family even though they fully didn't understand what my problem is.
So if you have this problem, know that you are not alone. I am with you :)
Here is the link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJVbKsXBTno